Too Old for Time Out by Pastor Abidan Shah

TOO OLD FOR TIMEOUT by Pastor Shah, Clearview Church, Henderson

Too Old for Time out

Introduction: Would you agree that parents sometimes say the funniest things? Here are a few that I’m sure you’ve heard at some point in time or you’ve said them:

  • “Don’t look at me with those eyes.”
  • “Quiet down, I can’t even hear myself think.”
  • “Don’t make me count to three!”
  • “Stop crying or I’ll give you something to cry about.”
  • “So if everybody jumps off the bridge, will you jump too?”
  • “Because I said so, that’s why!”

Unfortunately, there comes a day when it doesn’t matter what you say, kids do what they want to do. With that in mind, today’s message is titled, “TOO OLD FOR TIMEOUT.”

Genesis 34   25 Now it came to pass on the third day, when they were in pain, that two of the sons of Jacob, Simeon and Levi, Dinah’s brothers, each took his sword and came boldly upon the city and killed all the males…27…and plundered the city, because their sister had been defiled…30 Then Jacob said to Simeon and Levi, “You have troubled me by making me obnoxious among the inhabitants of the land, among the Canaanites and the Perizzites; and since I am few in number, they will gather themselves together against me and kill me. I shall be destroyed, my household and I.” 31 But they said, “Should he treat our sister like a harlot?”

Question: How is your relationship with your children? More specifically, how is your relationship with your grown children? Are they at odds with you? Are you at odds with them? What have they done to disappoint you? Many years ago I heard someone say, “When your kids are little, they step on your toes. When they get big, they step on your heart.” What have they done to step on your heart? Are you saved? Are they saved? Leading them to Christ is the most important thing you can do for them. Today’s message will teach us what to do when our kids are too old for timeout.

Context of the Message: In the last message we saw how Jacob reconciled with his old foe, his brother Esau. His worst fears were over. It was time to head home. It was time to begin a new chapter in his life. But, unlike before, Jacob is very particular about doing things the right way. Listen to Genesis 33:18 “Then Jacob came safely to the city of Shechem, which is in the land of Canaan, when he came from Padan Aram; and he pitched his tent before the city.” Jacob remembered what happened to great uncle Lot who moved into Sodom and destroyed his family and he chose to live in a tent and stay outside the city. 19 And he bought the parcel of land, where he had pitched his tent, from the children of Hamor, Shechem’s father, for one hundred pieces of money. Jacob remembered how Abraham adamantly paid Ephron the Hittite for his field in Machpelah and the cave in it and he paid Hamor for the land near Shechem. Why? He didn’t want any obligation to the people of Shechem. 20 Then he erected an altar there and called it El Elohe Israel. This is very important. Jacob is again trying to follow in the footsteps of his grandfather Abraham and father Isaac. He is building an altar to the Living God just like they did everywhere they went. Remember in Genesis 12   7 Then the LORD appeared to Abram and said, “To your descendants I will give this land.” And there he built an altar to the LORD…8 And he moved from there to the mountain east of Bethel…there he built an altar to the LORD and called on the name of the LORD. Also, Genesis 26:25 “So he (Isaac) built an altar there and called on the name of the LORD…” The point is that Jacob is being very careful in making sure that he did not make the same mistakes as his ancestors made and he did everything according to God’s will.

Now, you would think that as long as YOU do your best to follow God, everything would be just fine. No. Two things Jacob failed to take into account: First, when God called him, he did not tell him to go only as far as Shechem. Listen to Genesis 31:13 “I am the God of Bethel, where you anointed the pillar and where you made a vow to Me. Now arise, get out of this land, and return to the land of your family.” Stopping at Shechem was partial obedience and partial obedience is still full disobedience. Second, Jacob did not taken into account that his kids were not little anymore. They’re growing up with a mind of their own and they’re about to make some very poor choices. Listen to what happens in Genesis 34   1 Now Dinah the daughter of Leah, whom she had borne to Jacob, went out to see the daughters of the land. I looked at this infinitive phrase “to see the daughters of the land” in the original language and the better translation should be “to be seen among the women of the city.” A more idiomatic translation would be “to hangout with the young women of the city.” Why did Jacob allow this? Maybe, it was because he sent her to pick something up from the market. Maybe, it was because she was the only girl among all the children and he felt that she could use some friends. Maybe, it was because he didn’t know and she got permission from her mother Leah. Nonetheless, Dinah started hanging out with the girls of Shechem.

Here’s an old idiom – “If you lie down with dogs, you will get up with fleas.” Meaning: If you hang around with people who don’t believe like you do or live the same convictions as you do, sooner or later you’ll start believing and living as they do. You may say, “I’m trying to witness to them.” That’s great but unless you are actively leading them to Christ, they are subtly pulling you away from Christ. There’s no static middle ground.

What happened next? 2 “And when Shechem the son of Hamor the Hivite, prince of the country, saw her, he took her and lay with her, and violated her.” Some people immediately think that Shechem raped Dinah. That’s not true. The Hebrew construction actually means that he took her, lay with her, and shamed her. In other words, this was a consensual act but it ended up making Dinah look bad. Four thousand years later, not much has changed – “A boy does something wrong and he’s called a ladies man but if a girl does the same thing, she’s called a tramp.” Let’s keep reading – 3 His soul was strongly attracted to Dinah the daughter of Jacob, and he loved the young woman and spoke kindly to the young woman. 4 So Shechem spoke to his father Hamor, saying, “Get me this young woman as a wife.” In other words, this could have a good ending after all.

Now word gets back to Jacob5 “And Jacob heard that he had defiled Dinah his daughter.” It is interesting here that the narrator does not tell us as to Jacob’s reaction to the incident. Was he mad? Was he sad? Was he glad? Was he shocked? Was he disappointed? Was he indifferent? Nothing is mentioned here. I believe if anything, he is worried. Any reaction on his part, good or bad, could cause his grown sons to react badly. If he acts as if it’s no big deal, then they would be angry with him. If he acts as if it’s a big deal, then they will take that as a signal to get revenge. In Jacob’s mind, all that could be done now was to keep calm and try to make the best of this situation.

Application: Some of you are angry with your parents for something they did or didn’t do in a situation. Here’s my word to you – “You’ll never truly understand what they had to face. They did the best they could under the circumstances. Show them grace.”

What’s next? The brothers find out and they’re shocked, hurt, and angry. Hamor, the guy’s father, comes over to talk to Jacob and offers a marriage proposal. He even removes all restrictions to trade, business, and purchase of land. “After all, we’ll be family.” The boy is at the meeting as well. Listen to him – 11 Then Shechem said to her father and her brothers, “Let me find favor in your eyes, and whatever you say to me I will give. 12 Ask me ever so much dowry and gift, and I will give according to what you say to me; but give me the young woman as a wife.” He’s in love all right. Now listen to the response, not from Jacob but from his sons, Dinah’s brothers – 13 But the sons of Jacob answered Shechem and Hamor his father, and spoke deceitfully, because he had defiled Dinah their sister. 14 And they said to them, “We cannot do this thing, to give our sister to one who is uncircumcised, for that would be a reproach to us.” To cut to the chase, every male in your city has to be circumcised. The Bible does not tell us if Jacob was at this meeting or not. Either way, Jacob must have heard about the deal. He is a master deceiver and he knows what’s going on. His sons are making a wicked plan. If the people of Shechem refuse, his sons will take revenge on them for hurting their sister. If they accept…surely not every male in the city would agree to this…

Long story short – Shechem and his father went home and told the people of the deal and they all agreed to be circumcised! Go figure! 25 Now it came to pass on the third day, when they were in pain, that two of the sons of Jacob, Simeon and Levi, Dinah’s brothers, each took his sword and came boldly upon the city and killed all the males. I don’t think it was just those two brothers by themselves. More than likely, they took the lead and some of the other brothers followed, as well as all their workers. Furthermore, this is not the twenty-first century with all the sterilizations and proper medications. More than likely, there were plenty of infections and fever. That’s why they strategically waited till the third day when the pain would be at its worst. 26 And they killed Hamor and Shechem his son with the edge of the sword, and took Dinah from Shechem’s house…27 The sons of Jacob came upon the slain, and plundered the city, because their sister had been defiled. 28 They took their sheep, their oxen, and their donkeys, what was in the city and what was in the field, 29 and all their wealth. All their little ones and their wives they took captive; and they plundered even all that was in the houses.

Word got back to Jacob of what they had done. Listen to Jacob’s reaction – 30 Then Jacob said to Simeon and Levi, “You have troubled me by making me obnoxious (lit. to stink) among the inhabitants of the land, among the Canaanites and the Perizzites; and since I am few in number, they will gather themselves together against me and kill me. I shall be destroyed, my household and I.” Previously, Jacob was afraid of Esau and his 400 men. Now, it is the entire nations of the Canaanites and the Perizzites! Furthermore, the word would travel to Esau of what Jacob and his sons had done and Esau would hate him again. But listen to the brothers – 31 But they said, “Should he treat our sister like a harlot?” In other words, they don’t care about the consequences of their decisions. They wanted revenge and they got it. Jacob doesn’t say anything because there’s nothing left to say. His sons are now too old for timeout.

But listen to the very next verse – Genesis 35:1 Then God said to Jacob, “Arise, go up to Bethel and dwell there; and make an altar there to God, who appeared to you when you fled from the face of Esau your brother.” Meaning: It’s time to move. I didn’t call you here anyways.

Let me give you a few suggestions on what to do when your kids are too old for timeout:

  • Let them know that their actions were wrong
  • Don’t resent your kids. Forgive them
  • Reaffirm your love for them
  • Admit that you have made similar mistakes as well
  • Give them the opportunity to make things right
  • Trust God that he will finish what he has begun in their lives
  • Pray for them

WHAT A LIFE DIRECTED BY THE SPIRIT LOOKS LIKE

WHAT A LIFE DIRECTED BY THE SPIRIT LOOKS LIKE – Pastor Shah, Clearview Church, Henderson1

This morning we are in Luke 2 for our message titled – “WHAT A LIFE DIRECTED BY THE SPIRIT LOOKS LIKE.” With all the mess that is going on in this world, we desperately need men and women, boys and girls under the direction of the Holy Spirit. Erwin Lutzer said, “To be controlled by the Spirit means that we are not controlled by what happens on the outside but by what is happening on the inside.” Can you imagine what would happen if we were totally controlled by the Holy Spirit?

Luke 2 25 And behold, there was a man in Jerusalem whose name was Simeon, and this man was just and devout, waiting for the Consolation of Israel, and the Holy Spirit was upon him. 26 And it had been revealed to him by the Holy Spirit that he would not see death before he had seen the Lord’s Christ. 27 So he came by the Spirit into the temple. And when the parents brought in the Child Jesus, to do for Him according to the custom of the law, 28 he took Him up in his arms and blessed God and said: 29 “Lord, now You are letting Your servant depart in peace, According to Your word; 30 For my eyes have seen Your salvation

Overall Background: The incident we just read took place when Joseph and Mary came to the temple to dedicate the Baby Jesus. They encountered a man named Simeon. Listen to his description in verse 25 “…this man was just and devout, waiting for the Consolation of Israel, and the Holy Spirit was upon him. 26 And it had been revealed to him by the Holy Spirit that he would not see death before he had seen the Lord’s Christ. 27 So he came by the Spirit into the temple. Have you noticed something unusual about this person? Three times we hear the Holy Spirit in his description. He was not a priest or some religious leader, just an ordinary man living under the control of the Spirit.

To some of you this may be a foreign concept. It may even sound weird. Are you telling me to be possessed?!! No. God is Trinity – three in one, Father, Son, and Spirit. When I receive the Son whom the Father sent to be my Savior, then the Spirit becomes my daily companion and helper. To be under the direction of the Holy Spirit means every moment I live in communication with Him. To be under the Holy Spirit means every moment I turn to Him for every need and want in my life. He guides us and helps us in every way.

Illustration: In Mexico mission trip having a translator who was a constant companion and resource. Without him we felt completely lost.

The Holy Spirit is that companion who is our resource and help every moment. He is waiting for us to seek His help.

Simeon was a man who was under the guidance and authority of the Holy Spirit.

Application: Are you a person whose life is directed by the Holy Spirit? How do people describe you? Do they describe you as a person who is under the Holy Spirit? Do they describe you as a person who is led by the Holy Spirit? Do you understand the power that comes into our lives when we are under the authority of the Holy Spirit? By the way, you cannot have the Holy Spirit in your life until you have Jesus in your life.

This morning we will see some marks of a life under the direction of the Holy Spirit. Again, these are not all the marks but just some marks.

 1. GOOD REPUTATION BEFORE PEOPLE AND GOD

25 And behold, there was a man in Jerusalem whose name was Simeon, and this man was just and devout,

Background: Not a whole lot is given about him but his character is described as just and devout. “Just” in his dealings with people and “devout” in his dealings before God. First, let’s look at “just” = dikaios, which means righteous. Simeon was righteous in how he dealt with people around him – his wife, children, neighbors, co-workers, and community. You could trust him. His word was his bond. If he told you something, you could count on him. How did He have this righteousness? Because the Holy Spirit was upon Him. In John 16:8 Jesus said, “And when He has come, He will convict the world of sin, and of righteousness, and of judgment:”

We are living in a time where we need 40 pages of signatures to seal one deal. Why? There is no righteousness. People do things for each other but much of it is selfish. The Holy Spirit keeps us righteous before people. By the way, there will come a time when the Holy Spirit will be completely removed, and when that happens 2 Thessalonians 2:7 For the mystery of lawlessness is already at work; only He who now restrains will do so until He is taken out of the way.

Application: How is your reputation with people? The Holy Spirit can help you with that.

Now, let’s look at the second adjective – “devout” = eulabes, which means someone who is faithful to the things of God. Simeon was faithful regarding the things of God – his prayer life, temple participation, and ministry. You could count on him to be faithful to the things of God. How did he have this devotion? Because the Holy Spirit was upon him.

By His very name, the Holy Spirit is holy. When he comes into our lives he begins to root out all that is unholy. Sin has to run. You have to deal with sin. Show me a person who is under the direction of the Holy Spirit and I will show you a person who is trying to live a blameless life. Show me a person who is living in sin and I will show you a person who does not have the Holy Spirit or a person who is not submitted to the Holy Spirit.

Application: How is your reputation before people and God? Are you living a life under the direction of the Holy Spirit? Are you asking Him to help you live the Christian life?

2. HOPE IN THE PROMISES OF GOD

25 “…this man was just and devout, waiting for the Consolation of Israel, and the Holy Spirit was upon him.”

Background: What was the consolation of Israel? It was the promise of deliverance for the people of Israel. Many times in the Old Testament God promised through the prophets, especially Isaiah, that one day He would deliver His people.

Isaiah 40 1 “Comfort, yes, comfort My people!” Says your God. 2 “Speak comfort to Jerusalem, and cry out to her, That her warfare is ended, That her iniquity is pardoned;

Isaiah 49:13 Sing, O heavens! Be joyful, O earth! And break out in singing, O mountains! For the LORD has comforted His people, And will have mercy on His afflicted.

There are many more references that promise the consolation of Israel. Simeon was a man who trusted in the promises that God had given in his book. Show me a person who is under the direction of the Holy Spirit and I will show you a person who believes in this book – the Bible. Show me a person who is hopeless and I will show you a person who is not filled with the Holy Spirit. Anytime I hear I don’t think it’s going to work or I’m afraid it’s not going to work, I see a person who at that moment is not filled with the Holy Spirit. The problem with our nation and our community is hopelessness.

Application: Are you a hope-filled person? Are you person who believes in the promises of God? The real question is – Are you a person under the control of the Holy Spirit?

3. EYES LOOKING FOR JESUS CHRIST

26 And it had been revealed to him by the Holy Spirit that he would not see death before he had seen the Lord’s Christ.

Background: Simeon had received a promise through the Holy Spirit that he would see the Messiah before he died. In spite of what was happening around him, the Holy Spirit had given him the assurance that Jesus was on His way.

Did you know that the primary work of the Holy Spirit is to point you to Jesus? In John 14:26 Jesus said, “But the Helper, the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in My name, He will teach you all things, and bring to your remembrance all things that I said to you.” Again, in John 15:26, Jesus said, “But when the Helper comes, whom I shall send to you from the Father, the Spirit of truth who proceeds from the Father, He will testify of Me.”

My greatest need everyday is to see Jesus but I cannot see Him unless the Holy Spirit reveals Him to me. My selfishness pride, envy, jealousy, bitterness, unforgiveness, lust, greed, and every sin in the book are constantly blocking my view of Jesus. Only the Holy Spirit can clear the way so I can see Jesus.

27 So he came by the Spirit into the temple. And when the parents brought in the Child Jesus, to do for Him according to the custom of the law, What was the custom of the law? It was almost a month after Jesus was born. According to the law the mother of the male child was unclean for 7 days and then had to be confined for 33 days. Altogether, 40 days had passed since the birth of Jesus and Joseph, Mary, and the baby Jesus had come to the Temple for 3 important ceremonies: first, purification ceremony for Mary; second, presentation of Jesus as the firstborn to God ceremony; and third, dedication of the firstborn to God’s service ceremony.

May I make an application here: Dedicating our children to God is a very special ceremony. We used to do that as a church but sadly we have gotten away from that. Baby dedication tells God that our children are His gift to us and that we are grateful. It also tells God that we want his hand of blessing, guidance, and protection on them.

The Holy Spirit led Simeon right up to the Baby Jesus. 28 he took Him up in his arms and blessed GodSimeon

Application: Who are you looking at this morning? Is it Jesus? Oh I got peace or joy or hope. Wrong answer. Charles Spurgeon once said, “I looked at Christ and the dove of peace flew into my heart. I looked at the dove and it flew away”

4. CROSS AS THE DECIDER OF DESTINY

Now, what follows is known as Nunc Dimittis from the Latin first words “Now dismiss.” 29 “Lord, now You are letting Your servant depart in peace, According to Your word; 30 For my eyes have seen Your salvation 31 Which You have prepared before the face of all peoples, 32 A light to bring revelation to the Gentiles, And the glory of Your people Israel.” 33  And Joseph and His mother marveled at those things which were spoken of Him. 34 Then Simeon blessed them, and said to Mary His mother, “Behold, this Child is destined for the fall and rising of many in Israel, and for a sign which will be spoken against 35 (yes, a sword will pierce through your own soul also), that the thoughts of many hearts may be revealed.”

The Holy Spirit enabled Simeon to see people through the cross. There are only two categories of people – those who will rise and fall. In other words, saved and lost. Which one are you? Do you know someone who is lost? The Holy Spirit can help you.

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