Upbringing by Pastor Abidan Shah

UPBRINGING by Pastor Shah, Clearview Church, Henderson

Introduction: Yesterday, Ryan and Elizabeth had a mini-golf tournament at Adventure Island for all the students and their dads. We had a great time. I couldn’t help noticing how much kids took after their dads – active dads, active kids; quiet dads, quiet kids; competitive dads, competitive kids – not sure if the kids or the dads would admit to that. One thing was for sure, kids need their fathers.Our culture thinks that fathers are just an accessory (cell phone case, fancy purse, or limited-edition hat) but God has appointed fathers to be the primary influence in every child’s life. Today’s message titled “UBBRINGING” will help us see that.

1 Corinthians 4      15“For though you might have ten thousand instructors in Christ, yetyou donothavemany fathers; for in Christ Jesus I have begotten you through the gospel. 16Therefore I urge you, imitate me. 17For this reason I have sent Timothy to you, who is my beloved and faithful son in the Lord, who will remind you of my ways in Christ, as I teach everywhere in every church.”

Question: Fathers, you are to be the Instructors, Models, and Protectors to your children. Have you lived up to and are you living up to the calling God gave you as a dad? Children, of all ages, have you been grateful for what your fathers have done for you? For some, this may be a tough message.Either you were not the father you were supposed to be or you broke your father’s heart. Ask God to forgive you and give you his grace. Are you saved? John 1:12“But as many as received Him, to them He gave the right to become children of God, to those who believe in His name.”

Context: In light of Father’s Day, today’s message is a little different than how I typically preach.I want to dwell on the father-son relationship between Paul and Timothy.In I Corinthians 4:17, Paul refers to Timothy as “my beloved and faithful son in the Lord.” If you’ve studied the Bible, you know that Timothy was not Paul’s biological son. In Acts 16Luke gives us some background on who Timothy was. Listen to verse “Then he (Paul)came to Derbe and Lystra. And behold, a certain disciple was there, named Timothy, theson of a certain Jewish woman who believed, but his fatherwasGreek.” Apparently, Timothy was the son of a Jewish woman and a Greek man. The way Luke phrases that statement, Timothy’s father never converted to Judaism. Intermarriage between Jewish people and Gentiles was not as problematic to the Rabbis as long as the Gentile person converted to Judaism. The requirements for conversion were still quite high. But, if there was no conversion, it was strictly prohibited. According to the Book of Jubilees (a Jewish writing from that period), “And if there is a man in Israel who wishes to give his daughter or his sister to any man who is from the seed of gentiles, let him surely die … because he has caused shame in Israel.”(Jub 30:7) You can imagine what kind of a life Timothy must have had. Probably, his mother’s side of people did not accept him because his father was Greek and his father’s side of people did not accept him because his mother was Jewish. Then, it was probably on Paul’s first missionary journey (Acts 13-14)that Timothy’s grandmother and mother got saved, and even Timothy. Paul mentions them in 2 Timothy 1:5“when I call to remembrance the genuine faith that is in you, which dwelt first in your grandmother Lois and your mother Eunice, and I am persuaded is in you also.” Paul doesn’t say a word about Timothy’s father which means he never got saved and maybe even cut off all relations with Timothy and his mother.

The gospel can be very costly. Accepting Jesus as our Savior and King may lead to a loss of relationship with family. Listen to what Jesus said in Matthew 10     37 “He who loves father or mother more than Me is not worthy of Me. And he who loves son or daughter more than Me is not worthy of Me.38And he who does not take his cross and follow after Me is not worthy of Me.”

Illustration: My own father lost his family when he became a Christian. Its mind blowing!

Let’s return to Acts 16      2“He (Timothy)was well spoken of by the brethren who were at Lystra and Iconium. 3Paul wanted to have him go on with him. And he tookhimand circumcised him…” Scholars have long debated this action by Paul. He had fought hard against circumcision as a requirement for the Gentiles. He even refused to let Titus, who was also Greek, from having to be circumcised. He says it clearly in Galatians 5     2“Indeed I, Paul, say to you that if you become circumcised, Christ will profit you nothing….6For in Christ Jesus neither circumcision nor uncircumcision avails anything, but faith working through love.” In fact, Paul was on a mission to take the news of the Jerusalem Council’s decision to the churches that circumcision was not necessary in order to be saved. Why then did he get Timothy circumcised? Listen to the rest of Acts 16:3 “And he tookhimand circumcised him because of the Jews who were in that region, for they all knew that his father was Greek.” This was not about circumcision but about sonship. In a symbolic way, Paul was claiming Timothy as his son. Other than Luke, Paul had Timothy as his closest companion in ministry. Except for his letters to the Galatians, Ephesians, and Titus, he mentions Timothy in all his letters. 

Illustration: Going back to my own dad, he was symbolically adopted by a missionary scholar by the name of Dr. Fred Schelander. He was a Hebrew and Greek scholar who translated the Bible into Marathi. 

Application: Did God bring some godly men into your life? Are you such a father figure to someone who didn’t have one? Nicole’s dad was such a father figure in my life.

Paul filled this role of a father in Timothy’s life. We see this clearly in the 2 letters he wrote to him. 1 and 2 Timothy are referred to as the Pastoral letters. I like to call them the Parental letters. Let’s look at just a few of his statements to Timothy in his 2 letters to him. This should teach us how we need to fulfill our calling as a father or a father figure to the children God has biologically or spiritually given to us.

1. Confidence – 1 Timothy 1:18“This charge I commit to you, son Timothy, according to the prophecies previously made concerning you, that by them you may wage the good warfare.”

2. Church – 1 Timothy 3:15“…I writeso that you may know how you ought to conduct yourself in the house of God, which is the church of the living God, the pillar and ground of the truth.”

3. Self-respect – 1 Timothy 4     12“Let no one despise your youth, but be an example to the believers in word, in conduct, in love, in spirit, in faith, in purity.”

4. Communication – 1 Timothy 5      1“Do not rebuke an older man, but exhorthimas a father, younger men as brothers, 2older women as mothers, younger women as sisters, with all purity.”

5. Flee Sin and Chase Righteousness – 1 Timothy 6     11“But you, O man of God, flee these things and pursue righteousness, godliness, faith, love, patience, gentleness. 12Fight the good fight of faith, lay hold on eternal life…”

6. Relationship with Christ – 2 Timothy 2:1“You therefore, my son, be strong in the grace that is in Christ Jesus.”

7. Endurance – 2 Timothy 2      3“You therefore must endure hardship as a good soldier of Jesus Christ. 4No one engaged in warfare entangles himself with the affairs of thislife, that he may please him who enlisted him as a soldier. 5And also if anyone competes in athletics, he is not crowned unless he competes according to the rules. 6The hardworking farmer must be first to partake of the crops.”

8. Focused – 2 Timothy 2     23But avoid foolish and ignorant disputes, knowing that they generate strife. 24And a servant of the Lord must not quarrel but be gentle to all, able to teach, patient, 25in humility correcting those who are in opposition…”

9. Avoid bad company – 2 Timothy 3     1“But know this, that in the last days perilous times will come: 2For men will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy, 3unloving, unforgiving, slanderers, without self-control, brutal, despisers of good, 4traitors, headstrong, haughty, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God, 5having a form of godliness but denying its power. And from such people turn away!”

10. Example – 2 Timothy 3     10“But you have carefully followed my doctrine, manner of life, purpose, faith, longsuffering, love, perseverance, 11persecutions, afflictions, which happened to me at Antioch, at Iconium, at Lystra—what persecutions I endured. And out ofthemall the Lord delivered me. 12Yes, and all who desire to live godly in Christ Jesus will suffer persecution.”

Here’s one more that tells us how protective Paul was over Timothy.

11. Protector –1 Corinthians 16:10“And if Timothy comes, see that he may be with you without fear; for he does the work of the Lord, as I alsodo. 11Therefore let no one despise him. But send him on his journey in peace, that he may come to me; for I am waiting for him with the brethren.”

Invitation:Have you been the father you were called to be? Are you being the father God has called you to be? Have you been grateful to the father (biological or spiritual) that God placed in your life? Is God your Heavenly Father? Its only through Christ that he can be.

When God is Your Father by Pastor Abidan Shah

 

WHEN GOD IS YOUR FATHER by Pastor Shah, Clearview Church, Henderson

whengodisyourfatherIntroduction: This morning we are in our series through the Lord’s Prayer called “Talking to the Father” and today’s message is titled – “When God is Your Father.”

Matthew 6   9 In this manner, therefore, pray: Our Father in heaven, Hallowed be Your name. 10 Your kingdom come. Your will be done On earth as it is in heaven. 11 Give us this day our daily bread. 12 And forgive us our debts, As we forgive our debtors. 13 And do not lead us into temptation, But deliver us from the evil one. For Yours is the kingdom and the power and the glory forever. Amen.

Overall Background: Along with Psalm 23, John 3:16, Philippians 4:13, Jeremiah 29:11 and a few others, the passage we just read is one of the most well known passages of the Bible. It is the Lord’s Prayer or the Pater Noster or sometimes even known as the Disciple’s Prayer. It is found twice in the Gospels – one here in Matthew 6 and a shorter version in Luke 11. It could be that Jesus taught the same prayer several times or it could be that Luke placed it at a different point in his gospel, as he often does. What is interesting about Luke’s version of the prayer is that he gives us the context in which Jesus gave this model prayer. Listen to Luke 11:1 Now it came to pass, as He was praying in a certain place, when He ceased, that one of His disciples said to Him, “Lord, teach us to pray, as John also taught his disciples.” What is very interesting to me is that the disciples did not ask Jesus – “teach us to preach or teach us to evangelize or teach us to do a miracle” but “teach us to pray.” Why? Because they witnessed how important prayer was to Jesus.

Question: If you were one of the disciples, what would you have asked Jesus? How important is prayer to your daily life? Many of you shared with me this past week, how much you are looking forward to this series. Many of you have shared with me that you have begun to pray as never before. That’s wonderful! How about the rest of you? Here’s another question – Are you saved? Do you know Christ as your Savior?

This morning we will be looking at just the opening line of the Lord’s Prayer, just the designation that Jesus uses for God – “Our Father.” I’m praying that the Holy Spirit will open your eyes so you can see what that title represents. Also, if you don’t know God as your father that today you will believe in Christ as your Savior.

I. COMMON MISCONCEPTIONS:

  1. Jesus was the first to call God – “Our Father.”

Not true. This is a popular misunderstanding that was proposed by a German scholar by the name of Joachim Jeremias. Later on this same scholar revised his view but no one listened to him. It preached too good! Here are some examples of previous usage:

  • Moses said to the people of Israel in Deuteronomy 32:6 Do you thus deal with the LORD, O foolish and unwise people? Is He not your Father, who bought you? Has He not made you and established you?
  • In Isaiah 63:16 it says, “Doubtless You are our Father…You, O LORD, are our Father; Our Redeemer from Everlasting is Your name.”
  • In Malachi 1:6 where God says to His people “A son honors his father, And a servant his If then I am the Father, Where is My honor?…”

The point is this – Jesus did bring us a special intimacy with God. Ever since the Garden of Eden, God has desired to have a close relationship with us as a father to a child.

  1. “Abba Father” represents a little child’s name for father.

Once again the same scholar was responsible for this misunderstanding and once again he tried to correct it but to no avail. When you study the literature from that time, the word “abba” is not just a little child’s word for father but also a grown child’s word for father. Just like a 4 year old and a 40 year old can use the word “daddy,” a little child and a grown child can use the word “abba.”

The point is this – We’ve tried to insert our modern psychology into the first century world. Yes – there is something special in how a little boy or girl looks up to his/her father but this is not all that Jesus had in mind when He said “Our Abba.”

Some of y’all are wondering – what are you trying to get at? When we understand the real reason why Jesus said “Our Father,” it will change the way we think about God and pray to Him. It will revolutionize our prayer life! So what is the correct understanding?

II. CORRECT INTERPRETATION:

  1. Abba Father means God is our Creator.

Listen again to Deuteronomy 32:6 – “Do you thus deal with the LORD, O foolish and unwise people? Is He not your Father, who bought you? Has He not made you and established you?”

Here “Abba Father” has the idea of God being our Creator. When we say “Our Father,” what we’re really saying is “God, You are the source of our existence. We were created by you and we exist because of you. You’re not depended on us but we are depended on you.” Paul said the same thing in Acts 17:28 for in Him we live and move and have our being, as also some of your own poets have said, ‘For we are also His offspring.’” Offspring means we are God’s children who depend upon Him. Paul goes on in verse 29 to say, “Therefore, since we are the offspring of God, we ought not to think that the Divine Nature is like gold or silver or stone, something shaped by art and man’s devising.” Meaning: As God’s offspring, He gives shape and sustenance to us and not the other way around. He doesn’t depend on us but we depend on Him.

This is increasingly hard in our culture to understand where fathers have become dispensable. Fathers are nothing more than “sperm donors.” Mothers, on the other hand, have to carry the child for nine months, go through the pain of childbirth, and then provide nourishment and nurture for the child. Ladies – no disrespect to you but this is part of the reason why our society is so messed up today. We have pretty much told fathers – “We don’t need you. We can do without you. Just do your thing and get out of sight. We have the government, the school, and the church to raise the child. ‘It takes a village to raise a child.’” Growing up, my dad was everything to me. I know this is a tough message for some of you but this is not meant to hurt you or pull back the scab. This is not to blame you for some deadbeat dad. But we have to return to the standard.

Listen carefully – When we pray “Our Father in heaven,” we are telling God that we need Him and that we are depended on Him. He is our source and our sustenance. Without Him, we would not exist and without Him, we cannot survive.

Application: What do you think when you say “Our Father in Heaven?” Are you acknowledging that God is your creator? Are you admitting to Him that you are His creation? Are you reminding Him and your self how much you are depended on Him?

2. Abba Father means God is our Superior.

Malachi 1:6      “A son honors his father, and a servant his master. If then I am the Father, where is My honor? And if I am a Master, where is My reverence? Says the LORD of hosts.”

Here Abba Father has the idea of God being our Superior. When we say “Our Father,” what we’re really saying is “God, You are above us. You deserve all honor and respect. You are not subject to us. We are subject to You. You don’t obey us. We obey You.” We find this echoed several times. Ephesians 4 (There is) 6 one God and Father of all, who is above all, and through all, and in you all. 1 Corinthians 8:6 “yet for us there is one God, the Father, of whom are all things, and we for Him.” By the way, the one person who lived this perfectly was Jesus Christ. He always honored and obeyed His Father. Hebrews 5:8 “though He was a Son, yet He learned obedience by the things which He suffered.”

Once again, this is also increasingly hard in our culture to understand where fathers have lost all respect and authority. For several reasons – they are just as guilty or clueless or just another male-mom. Let’s look at each one of them briefly:

  • Just as guilty: If you yourself have issues, how can you tell your children to behave? No wonder your kids don’t honor you.
  • Clueless: If you are like the typical TV dad, can’t do anything right and always the last one to get it, is it any wonder your children don’t respect and obey you?
  • Male-mom: Please don’t misunderstand – Yes, 2 Corinthians 1:3 describes God as “the Father of mercies and God of all comfort” but we can do that without becoming a second mom. God designed every family to have only one mom, a caregiver and nurturer. Dad should invoke authority and respect. My kids know that I love them and I am gentle with them but they also have a healthy fear of me. So also with God.

Listen carefully – When we pray “Our Father in heaven,” we are telling God that He is the boss. He is in charge and He has authority over us. We will obey and respect Him.

Application: What do you think when you say “Our Father in Heaven?” Are you acknowledging that God is your superior? Are you willing to submit to Him and obey Him? Are you willing to affirm – “Father knows best?”

3. Abba Father means God is our Redeemer.

Isaiah 63:16 “Doubtless You are our Father…You, O LORD, are our Father; Our Redeemer from Everlasting is Your name.”

Here Abba Father has the idea of God being our Redeemer. When we say “Our Father,” what we’re really saying is “God, You are our Redeemer. We are in a mess and we need you to rescue us and set us free. You are our only hope.” The greatest example of this is found in Exodus 4 when God sent Moses to free His people Israel from slaver in Egypt – 22 Then you shall say to Pharaoh, “Thus says the LORD: ‘Israel is My son, My firstborn. 23 So I say to you, let My son go that he may serve Me. But if you refuse to let him go, indeed I will kill your son, your firstborn.’” By the way, was God bluffing? No. When Pharaoh refused to let God’s people go, every male firstborn of man and livestock died the night of the Passover.

Once again, this is also increasingly hard in our culture to understand where fathers have checked out. So many children have no fathers to defend and recuse their sons/daughters.

Illustration: Third grade was a rough year for life. Mom got really sick and was in the hospital for months. Dad had to take care of her and preach and travel to make ends meet. It was a dark period in my life. To top it all, my teacher in 3rd grade was not nice. She was mistreating me, playing favoritism. I had lost all self-worth. I say that carefully because I am a teacher/principal and I have a very high regard for teachers. My mom was a teacher. Dad saw my report card and he wasn’t happy. He asked my why I wasn’t paying attention. I told him I was. He asked me if I sat up front? I told him that the teacher did not have a seat for me. She told me to see who is absent and take their seat for the day. He asked a few more questions. Nothing more was said. Next day, I saw him going to the office. I thought I was in big trouble. I wasn’t. In fact, the principal realized what was happening and what this teacher was doing. Things were different from then.

That’s how God our Father is. He killed His own firstborn to rescue us from His own wrath. He is our Redeemer. When you come to Him for help, He doesn’t sit back and judge you. He immediately comes to your rescue.

Invitation: Is God your Father? This prayer is not just about imitation but participation. When we are in Christ, this becomes our prayer. Are you in Christ

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